About This Website

I started blogging in the Fall of 2012 after enduring a lifetime of trauma and neglect from those closest to me. Prior to that time, my world had spiraled into a web of vices, addictions, and self abuse. What began as a healing journey, hidden among the pages of a private blog, soon transformed itself into a way of repairing my inner wounds.
Once I decided to make my stories public, I realized I had attained not only an active audience, but a tremendous support group filled with people who had experienced the same type of horrendous situations I had. No longer was I alone. In fact, I was now a voice for those still stuck in the pattern of abuse.
Unfortunately, the depth of my novels have also exposed my weaknesses to predators. Because I present a no-holds-barred account of my past, individuals with personality disorders see me as the perfect target. Thus, my writing continues as I surpass each new experience and relationship in my life.
My characters express the ugly realities and revelations from each of us. I use my own pain as guided inspiration behind my tales and hope that those who seek truth can find it somewhere within these pages. My words should be greeted with caution, as I choose not to hold back on the grim details. This material is not for sensitive readers and should be taken with a grain of salt.
Of course, no healing could be complete without a twinge of humor. As most comedians do, I find that making fun of myself and others to be a monumental way of releasing built up frustrations and rage. Especially when the jokes are crass and below the belt.
Though I write about my personal experiences; time lines, names, descriptions and sometimes the endings of my stories have been changed in order to protect the privacy of those who have inspired me and, of course, prevent a lawsuit.
As I say in all my books; “This is not a memoir; It is a highly exaggerated piece of filth. Shame on you for reading!”

Wendi Bear



“It’s not my fault” started back in November of 2012. Originating as a spoof on a love story and emerging into an evolving piece of art. “It’s not my fault. Self Discovery & Admission” the book was first published in February 14, 2013 and is for sale at most major online retailers. She has a follow up novel, “It’s not my fault. Sacrifice and Survival.”

This site is NOT (and never has been) intended for sensitive readers. ALL material on this site is posted for a mature audience of 18+

All material, written and photographed on this site are copyrighted and subject to copyright laws.

Every post you read on this site is linked to another story in someway. If you liked what you read and are curious to find out more, all you have to do is follow the hidden links. Sometimes the clues are in the links. Other time you may find them in the comments.

Happy hunting!

Wendi Bear


          1. same here, been a while since I updated mines, new post coming up explaining what happened. are you busy these days as well?


  1. I will give you some grace, and allow you to gather some substance for your answer. Perhaps I have asked a question you find irrelevant, or puzzling. Either way, I found out what I needed to find out. I appreciate you admiring my writing. Feel free to stop by and read anytime. The most recent post is for CA. Shalom.


  2. Dear Electrickiss, you are a ‘Wow! writer. That is a great gift God has given you. Thank you so much for visiting my blog. I also have some great personal Good News for you: Jesus loves you, He needs you, He wants you. And the same goes with me here!


  3. Hey,
    I just want you to know that what you do for the internet community, and writing, is amazing. You are smart and beautiful, and you know how to use it. You inspire.

    I stumbled upon your blog because I follow you, but I found, with a little investigation, something that changed my view of blogging. I found a donation page. You inspired me to create one for myself. I am honored to be following you and your art, and I hope you continue to inspire. I love learning new things by accident. Brilliant!

    Vielen Dank,



  4. I noticed you passed 100k visitors. Congratulations on touching so many people. I enjoy your writing and am not surprised so many others do as well, but that’s a huge fucking number in a short while. Don’t try to figure out the reason just keep doing what you’re doing. It’s mathematical, you’ve got your finger on the common denominator of what moves people from diverse backgrounds. ❤


  5. Hey thanks for the “Like.” I was surprised by the titles of your posts & then read a couple. Not your standard wordpress fare, some uhm, real energy in there. Maybe we can trade – porn for poetry.


  6. Hi – well I am titillated, and happy to have your like and visit. I hope you will follow, as the dog I am is panting heavily. 🙂


  7. Wendi, now you’ve done it. You’ve liked one of my posts. You know what that means. I am glad you do, because I sure don’t. Other than you liked what I wrote and that makes me want to dance a little jig. Actually I did just a few minutes ago. One thing is for sure. I will just have to continue entertaining the troops

    Just wanted you to know that the reason it’s not your fault is because it’s mine. I take all the credit. Now don’t you feel better. I know that takes a big load off your shoulders.

    By the way, is it true that you are descended from a long line of teddy bears? I kinda figured you are since you are really a very special person. And congratulations on your blog. Couldn’t happen to a nicer human.


  8. Forgot to say this. Well, you went and done it. You went and followed Uncle Bardie’s Stories & Such. You are now one of Uncle Bardie’s Band of Merry Followers. Just so you know, Uncle Bardie’s a hoot, and he’s got quite a few whoppers in his bag of stories. Some funny, some not so funny. But all told for your entertainment. Thank you for following his blog.


  9. Thanks for liking my post “the artist”, it is great to get some feedback and to motivating to be read so early on into my new blogging adventure.


  10. Thanks for visiting my post and am so happy that led me to this. It’s so wonderful , honest and funny and am waiting when I will get back to my den and read all your post! You are wonderful !

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      1. If you claim that this site isn’t for sensitive readers, why are you against sociopaths? As far as I’m concerned, sociopaths are insensitive to the max.

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  11. Best wishes on your journey. I know how hard it is to change the message or the script after having been trained to be everything that somebody else wants you to be. It is too bad that people mistake your expression of a desire to heal from trauma as a signal that they should bother you. Recently, I have experienced the opposite. People who are looking for vulnerable individuals to exploit are completely turned off by my work. It’s creep repellent. This has been motivating me to keep writing and creating art. Stay strong. 🌺❤️💚

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    1. That’s amazing, Sebiscuit!

      I can’t remember how long ago I wrote this page or what it says (I should probably update it soon), but I’ve been experiencing that recently as well!

      Times are changing, the world is shifting, and evil people can no longer stand the authenticity of the good!

      They ARE picking out the weak, and the inner strength I’ve built through my own healing from all these years has been keeping my strong and on top of the game.

      It’s interesting and astounding at the same time. It’s been a long time coming.

      Hoping that all these changes lead to a better world.

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